Topless Tapas

So, I have this great idea for a fun, lifestyle party. . . A Topless Tapas Night!  Tapas is one of my favorite ways to dine.  I love to try foods, and hate feeling that I’ve overeaten at the end of a meal, so the small portions to share are perfect.  As the party host, you can suggest that every couple bring a shareable appetizer.  Once the guests arrive, tapas come out, tops come off, and the sharing begins (wink, wink)!  What happens from that point is really up to you.  Feel free to host a Topless Tapas Night of your own, and let us know about it . . . we just might want to join you!

Birdie

Sexy Dares

Ok- we’ve been slacking on blogging lately.  We’ve just been too busy.  Which is not a good thing- you’ve got to take time.  So now I’m making time, but I have to admit I’m pretty darn tired.  I thought what I’d do is post a link to a game we’re in the middle of-  http://www.wildlysexydares.com/.

Wildly Sexy Dares is a long term game.  It can take weeks or months to complete.  The basic idea is that you have dare cards that are worth a certain amount of points.  When you complete these dares, you get the points.  There are three levels, and whoever finishes each level first gets a prize!  You and your partner sit down before you even start playing and decide on each prize, so it can be as sexy and crazy as the two of you are.  The other cool thing is that the dares can happen pretty much at any time- out for dinner, to a movie, hanging with friends… you just never know!  It basically turns your entire life into one big sexy game.

We have found a few flaws, and have amended the rules a little bit to suit us better.  Many of the included dares are GREAT and have been a lot of fun.  Others, frankly, kind of suck.  There are wild cards, but we’ve decided that you can pretty much make up a wild card at any time and just assign appropriate point values to it.  This makes up for not quite enough really good dares.  We’ve also modified the scoring just a bit to fit our playing style.  Other than those few things, though, it’s great!

The game comes with a cool little board that we have sitting in a dresser drawer, and whenever we need to pull a few more cards or add points, we just open it up and it’s right there keeping score for us!  Give it a try- it’s a lot of fun.  I have to admit, I’m prone to liking ‘dare’ style games.  Just something about my personality, I guess.

That’s all for now- have fun!

Welcome!

It dawned on us that there really wasn’t a place for Jews in the Lifestyle to discuss the issues relating to being on the outside of society in two distinct areas. This blog will, hopefully, provide that place.

How to deal with jealousy during the Swinger Lifestyle?

Many couples face emotional issues while pursuing the swinger lifestyle. Hence, the given below tips will help you deal with ups and downs of the swinger relationships.

All swinger couples live a lifestyle that demands freedom from social obligations. This liberal environment acts as a mode through which they can fulfill their sexual desires. However, feeling like jealousy and envy can creep in at some point of time.

This mainly happens with newbie swinger couples who find it difficult to accept that their spouse is enjoying sexual pleasures with a stranger. Usually, during the swinger parties, one person gets maximum attention from the freewheeling swingers, while the other gets the least opportunity to realize the sexual fantasies. This invokes insecurity into the relation which can further culminate to sour marital relationship.

Hence, every swinger must discuss the above feelings before they venture into the swinging lifestyle. Initially, they should talk about their swinger aspirations. They should share the experience at the swinger parties with their spouses. This will inculcate trust and belongingness among spouses which will strengthen their relationships.

Therefore, the lifestyle demands complete trust among spouses because swinging aims extracting maximum sexual pleasures without breaking relations. Hence, you should make your spouse believe that you love them a lot and the swinger relationship will strengthen your marital relationship.

So, kick off emotions like jealousy and envy out of your lives and explore the pleasures of the swinger lifestyle.

Personal Stimulus Package

It’s almost here.  We’re almost done.  It’s so close.  Let me just say, for the record, that I don’t mind actually paying taxes nearly as much as I do preparing them.  What a HASSLE it is every year.  On April 16th of every year I make a resolution to keep everything and compile it all into nice orderly stacks and spreadsheets at the end of each month.  Then, when it rolls around to the end of March every year, what do I have?  I very well organized spreadsheet and stack from April of the last year, and scattered receipts and statements and papers and envelopes all over the house stuffed in drawers and cabinets from the other eleven months.

The good news is that it looks like we’re actually going to get a refund this year!  Not much, but some.  That’s a HUGE improvement over last year when we ended up paying out ….. a lot.

So here’s the deal- we’re all stressed out over getting all this crap together.  We’re gonna have a little extra, unexpected money soon.  The economy still needs stimulating (and so do we!).  So where does that lead?  If you just so happen to be in the same boat as us, and you’re getting a little Uncle Sam refund, be sure to spend it wisely! Do something to pump up the economy, relieve your stress, AND do a little… stimulating of the package! (I know, I know- I couldn’t help it.)

How about a sexy trip?  Check out www.shoesonlytravel.com.  Go somewhere and really get away.  Sandy, sunny, sexy, and swim up bars.  You just can’t beat that.

Support your local adult store!  Go pick out some new toys.  Here’s an idea: Have a contest with your partner to see who can pick out the most insane new thing-a-majig, then get ‘em home and give it a whirl!

Buy a gym membership!  Maybe it sounds a little odd, but it’s not.  Increased health and physical fittness will also increase your drive and stamina!  Plus you’ll look hotter when you’re playing with the new fangeled thing-a-majigs you picked up.  Or when you’re laying out on the beach naked at your tropical destination.

I’m sure you can think of some other sexy ways to spend it, too.  Screw saving it!  Screw the stock market!  That’s for suckers.  Go out and have some fun.  Do “smart” things with your OTHER money.

(by the way- not only am I not a finicial advisor, I didn’t sleep anywhere close to a holiday inn express last night.)

Surprise, Red Sheets!

So last night, my husband gets up to take our dog for her final evening walk, and I sneak into the bedroom to put on a new set of Deep Red Sateen Sheets!  When he gets back from the walk, and turns off the living room lights, he’s greeted with a fresh bed and fresh red sheets.  Just like it’s hard to resist a little love-making on Naked Tuesday, it’s equally hard to resist new . . . red . . . sheets!

Now, I don’t think you have to go out and buy new sheets.  There are other ways to create a surprising invitation.  Secretly heading off to bed a little early, quietly lighting some candles, slipping into that sexy lingerie, and calling your loved one for a glass of water might work just as well.

In case you’re wondering . . . RED SHEETS ROCK!

Birdie

What gets in the way of great sex?

Just some personal observations on obstacles that can get in the way of great sex, and what strategies you can use to make it happen.

Television - Turn the damn thing off!  Or- turn off the volume and make a game out of creating your own dialogue.  See how what you come up with does or doesn’t work with the plot line!  And, of course, throw in some sexy pickup lines, crude comments, and inappropriate behavior.

Tired - Ok, this may seem too obvious, and I guess it is, but here goes:  Make it a priority.  It can be tough for people with kids and for folks who have demanding jobs, but do it.  One strategy to overcome this correlates to the first obstacle- turn off the TV earlier.  Don’t wait until one of you falls asleep on the sofa and then head to the bedroom hoping for some nookie.  Sex doesn’t have to happen after 11 at night, right?  Hell, if you can’t do that, get up earlier!  (I’m not gonna do that- but I like to stay up late anyway.)

Misread cues/Lack of Communication - This can be a tough one too.  Some people can talk about ANYthing with their partner but sometimes still can’t figure out how to bring up sexual desires, fantasies, etc.  If you just can’t get the conversation going, maybe try sending a link to something in an email.  Not that the whole conversation should be back and forth through email, but asking “hey, what’d you think about that link I sent you?” might be an easier way to get the ball rolling.  Pick an article from Gentle Nibbles or from the Kasidie magazine- there are some great articles in both places!  Or pick a toy from Liberator or Adam & Eve and send that link.  Who knows?  Maybe they’ve been trying to get up the nerve to talk to you about something!  Speaking of which- while you’re doing all this sharing, be sure to ASK if they’ve got any ideas or fantasies you don’t know about as well.

Alright- That’s all I’ve got for now.  Have fun!

Yoga-Sutra

So, I’m sure I’m not the only one to notice some similarties between Yoga and Kama Sutra poses, right?  Well, this morning it’s all I could think about through my yoga class (maybe it was because of Naked Wednesday yesterday).

Yoga=>Kama Sutra

Setu Bandha (Back bend)=>The Arc

Halasana (Plow pose)=>The Deep One

Virasana (Hero pose)=>The Hammock

Malasana=>The Amazon

Well, I had a great yoga class, and didn’t once consider how tight my muscles were.  I think I’ll see if the Mr. might be up for a “Naked Yoga Friday”.  Who knows, we could discover more yoga-sutra moves!

; ) Birdie

NAKED WEDNESDAY?!?!?!

Did you know yesterday was Naked Wednesday?  Well neither did I, not until it was ALMOST too late.  Yesterday was a really, really long and tiring day and other than a quick shower I’d spent it entirely clothed.  When it finally got to be bed time I was beat.  I was ready to lay down, close my eyes, and just drift off.  So as Birdie and I walked back to the bedroom I wasn’t envisioning anything but my pillow.  I took off my shoes, socks, shirt, and pants and headed for the sheets in my boxer shorts.

That’s when Birdie said “Hey, what are you doing?”  I looked over at her as she ripped off her bra and panties, smiled a slightly dissaproving smile and chided “Don’t you know it’s Naked Wednesday?” and gingerly hopped in the bed–naked as a…um… jaybird.

Not wanting to be left out on this newly found ritual, I dropped the boxers with a smile and dove in, asking “oh, yeah?  I wish I’d known that earlier!”

So of course, being in the bed naked, it’s pretty much impossible to keep naked skin from touching naked skin.  Then at that point, it’s CERTIANLY impossible not to do a little rubbing and maybe some kissing and nibbling.  And if you’re gonna do that, you may as well fondle each other a little bit right?  And you KNOW what happens when you fondle- some things get wet and some things get stiff, some things get goose bumps and some things are more ticklish than normal.  So by the time we’ve got all this going on, and everything working and primed and ready, you know it’s a dirty shame to waste it.  At the point we MUST have some killer sex.

So really, we had no choice, right?  Plus- we really had to make up for missed time on Naked Wednesday!  It was almost over!

Moral of the story?  First, once you get naked and start rubbing on each other, you just can’t turn back.  Second, declare a naked ____day sometime!  It’s simple, quick, easy, and doesn’t require a lot of prep time.  Well, any prep time, actually.  Best of all, it’s spontaneous and fun- PLUS it’ll help you sleep better!

I wonder if today’s Naked Thursday…

Weekend Plans

Well, it’s gonna be a weekend at home for us.  Kind of a bummer.  I was hoping we’d be able to sneak off to Atlanta this weekend and check out out either Trapeze or Little Wings, but it’s just not in the cards.  Too many little things have popped up around here, and one sort of bigger thing, so here we’ll stay.  Maybe we’ll get our taxes finished.

OR- maybe we’ll at least get to have a fun night at home!  You know, break out the wine, a few candles, put on some good music…  Maybe we’ll even do some new profile pictures for our Kasidie account!  We’ve been tossing a few ideas back and forth for a couple of days.  I gotta find my tripod, or get a photographer.  Anybody know how to hold a camera???

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